First off, I’m fully aware that it shouldn’t be necessary for anyone to look into your significant other’s social media shit, but when it’s stuff that’s open to the public, it’s easy to look into things, and apparently guys don’t understand that other people can see what you’re doing when it’s not behind the scenes messaging.
Secondly, I know I’m not the only girl with this problem, and every time I’ve thought about confronting my boyfriend about it, I go “Oh yeah, except he’s going to say I’m crazy, so I’ll stay quiet and languish in my own sorrow, while he goes on and enjoys giving other girls attention.” When in reality, in this situation, calling a girl crazy is a guys go to phrase when they know they’ve done something wrong.
THIRDLY, I’m not saying guys can’t like other girls’ Instagram or Facebook pictures without being accused of wanting to fuck or date that person. Guys had lives before you, and they probably have friends of the other gender, or were acquaintances with some, and it’s not a crime to like pictures while scrolling through your pages. But when this is a person they’ve never seen before, they add them, and right off the bat “like” every one of their pictures, or ones from weeks ago (like 30,40,80) that’s a red flag.
There’s a language people have developed over the internet to get their point across without sounding too upfront, and all human beings understand it, because it’s basic instinct now.
Example: If a guy I don’t know adds me, likes 10 of my pictures, all of them selfies, and some of them are from 47 weeks ago, they’re sending the message, “Hey you’re hot, or hey you’re pretty. Either I’d fuck you, or I’d like to get to know you and maybe date you. Either way you’re welcome to message me so I can see if we’re compatable”
You cannot tell me that’s not true. I’ve had guys do this plenty of times, as I’m sure a million other girls have. It’s called showing interest in a subtle way but getting your attention, so you can look at their profile, and maybe do the same. Which leads to the initial conversation of “Hey, what’s up?(:” or “Looks like you like what you see” or whatever way you strike up conversation with someone you could potentially be sucking face with. And this doesn’t just apply to guys. Girls do it too. If I were single, I’d be doing the same thing. And I have. And it works.
And here’s the thing. I would not give a shit if my boyfriend added a girl on Instagram, and fucking jacked off to her pictures, as long as he didn’t make the notion to “like” all of her pictures. I know some girls would be disgusted by that, like he’s betraying you, but seriously think about it. He hasn’t engaged with her besides the fact that they’re now following each other. She has no idea he thinks she’s attractive. Guys are not going to stop thinking that other people are attractive, because that’s how humans fucking work. You yourself, guaranteed still think other people are attractive. It’s the initiation of conversation that is betrayal. When you start liking every single one of their pictures, and ones from 40 weeks ago, that 100% is telling that girl, when she looks at her newsfeed, that he would fuck her. There’s no other way to put that. If you have a girl friend, whom you’re serious about in the long run, you don’t do that shit. They could follow all the babes in the world, even porn stars, but if they’re not making a move at trying to communicate with that girl, they’re just doing it to LOOK. Not make an action out of it, and that’s a real boyfriend/husband who cares about you. When it turns to trying to get that girls attention, they don’t think about you, they just want the attention of another woman. Easy way to get your dick sucked, right?
I don’t know why guys pull the, “Okay cool yeah I liked her pictures, you’re fucking crazy why does it matter, I’m with you” IT’S BECAUSE THAT’S A SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN SIGN THAT YOU’RE INTERESTED IN SOMEONE AND THE INTERNET IS THE ONLY WAY YOU CAN TALK TO THAT PERSON YOU WOULD NEVER KNOW IN REAL LIFE. You can say it means nothing out loud because “it’s the internet,” but when you’re doing that shit on the down low and when you’re alone, you’re doing it for a fucking reason, and you know it.